My Heavenly Father has taught me some important lessons recently. They have challenged all I know about myself and yet it also showed me I could learn, grow, accept alot I did not believe I could.
When you meet someone who changes your life, so much that years later you still love them, if circumstances were different you would choose to be with them. But Heavenly Father also brings
memories and situations not to hurt us, but to teach us. First and foremost love is not a bad thing, it never is, its what we do with it that is important. Loving someone unconditionally is the most Christlike thing we can do. But we also have to keep it appropriate. We cannot allow old feelings, new feelings,
to send us in directions we should not be in.
Memories are either a great learning experience, or they are a teaching tool, sometimes both.
Memories can make our hearts full again, they can help us to fill the love we use to, or the pain.
But we should also step back review them, learn, love, and move on.
I made the mistake of holding on to someone who is gone for so long I could not love anyone else.
It did not do me any good, it hurt people because they knew I wished I were somewhere else with someone else.
I learned to forgive myself for this, I learned to change my behavior, I asked for forgiveness and most importantly I forgave myself.
Love should always be a positive thing, it should never cause others pain, it should never cause us to
do things to hurt ourselves or anyone else.
I was blessed to know un conditional love, when he looked at me I felt as if he really knew me, he really loved me. i also knew that no matter what, the time we shared would always be wonderful
Then I realized I needed to honor that love, and allow myself to love again.
Love is not about waiting for them to love you, or who loves whom more. Love should be something
that we share, we feel it, and give it freely. What the other person does is in their personal part.
We cannot control what others feel for us, or do not feel, and if someone does not love us we cannot
force ourselves to quit loving them. Someday, they will know what you gave to them, they will see
that you did love them, completely. That it didnt work because they did not love you, and love is truly only wonderful if both love each other.
Our Heavenly father in all his wisdom teaches us about love, compassion, and all the other wonderful
things in life. Love will hurt at times, it will tear your heart out, but if you learn and grow when you love again you will love deeper, you will feel more compassion, and you will cherish it more.
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